When I was in High School I worked at an ice cream shop. A girl named Emma was my shift lead. She had curly brown hair to her waist and these thick rimmed glasses my eyes would get lost in.

We made eachother laugh and I always wished we could spend more time togeher. One day someone told me we should go on a date and I recoiled. At the time I knew two queer people, neither were women.

Throughout my Texan adolescence, homosexuality for men was dangerous, and for women was silent, disgusting, a whisper of judgment and impossibility. 

Years later Emma and I kissed on Valentine’s day under the light of my center console. It was impossibly beautiful, and the memory feels tainted by the shame I felt in the moment

As I approached adulthood, I began to reckon with the things I had long ago buried. I didn’t feel whole. With my peace on the line, I began to consider my community. At the time it even felt wrong to call it that. 

I considered how much I didn’t know, how shameful I felt about myself, and others by-proxy. I wanted to meet people. I wanted to learn. 


Loving Life in Queerness is an exploration of love and joy for queer people in the greater D.C. area.
It is an exploration of self, it is my homecoming.






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